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“Just relax OR If it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be OR The baby will decide when it’s ready to come.”
Telling someone to relax, not only does not help them relax, but it also trivialises their stress and worry. Instead of simply dismissing the stress of a high-risk pregnancy by distracting your friend or telling her to get over it. Instead, ask her if she would like to talk about it, tell her you understand how stressful it must be, and that she is justified to worry.
Tell her that you hear her concerns and think they are valid… Then try and help her relax by actually doing something relaxing with her, not just telling her to relax and then leaving.
“Oh, Yes, I know, pregnancy is such a worry. I remember when we were having our last baby and we couldn’t get in to see the natural therapy hypnobirthing class for three months! It was so stressful!”
Um, not the same thing… Continue reading