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A little while ago, I accidentally got engaged. I am very excited – but I am also worried. I am worried about the stress of the day and what that might do to my autoimmune disorder. I am worried about getting worried! Stupid right.
Mostly I am worried that I will get sick before the day and miss some part of it. Or have my ITP play a part on the wedding day.
So, I am going to do my very best to make sure that my wedding day is ITP proof. I am going to make sure that everything I can do, will be done, starting with the dress.
It didn’t take long for me to realise that I was going to need a long sleeves. After a dress fitting with blood test bruises, I knew I wanted to cover them up.
The brown red mark of the bruise on my elbow was startling against the Glacial Ice White of the dress. ‘I’m going to need longer sleeves,’ I told the lady in the shop.
Thank goodness the Kate Middleton made sleeves cool again.
When trying on wedding dresses, the people in the store will ask you the date of your wedding. This is so that they can get you your dress on time. What it also means is that you will be trying on dresses that will suit the season of your wedding.
Dresses with long sleeves are Winter dresses. They are hot. They will cover up your bruises, but it will be warm.
Part Two – Make up
Make up artist should be able to cover up bruises easily on the day.
This section is about all the over events that will happen before and after the wedding, when there is no professional make up artist. I am talking about the rehearsal dinner and the recovery breakfast.
Here is a plan for COVERING UP BRUISES using coloured concealers. It will show you how to match the colour of the bruise to the coloured concealer you need. Matching the colours is very important for a natural and flawless look.
Part Three – The Stress
We are not just talking about Weddings, we are talking about all kinds of stress. It is just particularly that Weddings are a strange kind of stressful because everyone gets mad at you when you look stressed out and nobody but you can understand why you are so stressed out – Even people who have been married before.
The best way to manage stress is to get organised
If you don’t want to be stressed then you have to be organised. ITP is a stress induced autoimmune disease – at least in my case I know it to be directly related to feeling stressed out.
So keep it stress free, or of load your stress onto someone else. Do what ever you need to do.
- Make lists – Make a thousand lists of everything you need to do. Keep a list by your bed and paper in your hand bag. Write everything down so you do not need to keep it in your head.
- Emails – Be clear and concise in your emails. Ask clear questions and offer answers as soon as possible. Try not to tell people ‘you don’t care,’ or ask strangers to ‘take care of it.’
- Excel documents – Use these to keep track of guests, their addresses, weather they have RSVP’ed and the gift they gave at the wedding.
Part Four – Managing Everyone Else
Trying to remain calm makes you look stupid. If you do not get fired up over mistakes, disasters and grooms men breaking their legs – people can see you as an indifferent, cold, apathetic bride who is not worth making a huge effort for.
Make sure those around you know you plans for remaining calm. Make sure people are not watching you all the time as you make decisions and make sure those around you can handle a little disaster themselves without always coming to you.