My dearest friend has ITP.
I have written about ITP and Friendship before here.
Her platelets fluctuate as do her doses of medication, access to good and bad information, her levels of being tired and in turn her mood. Each day that she wakes up she has ITP, and it isn’t going away any time soon.
Meanwhile I go about my business, working, moving houses, seeing friends, working on different projects, all with my (for now) reasonably healthy body to take for granted. I wonder about my friend often. I wonder if she has been to the doctor lately. I wonder what her blood count is, I wonder how much prednisone she is on, I wonder how much she wonders about it all. I see her posts pop up on her blog about living with ITP and it reminds me, sometimes shocks me, that she is still living with ITP. I say shocking because often when shit things happen in your life you buckle up, breathe in, and try your best to move through them and come out the other side. We have all done this – buckled up, heard the bad news, cried and let the event finally pass by. But this one isn’t going to go away.
Each day she continues to wake up with ITP.
So my wondering has led me to ponder a couple of questions.
How often should you ask your ITP suffering friend how they are doing, not wanting them to not feel alone and forgotten in it?
How much do you allow them to remember and how much do you help them forget?