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Giving thanks, or to put it another way, being nice first.
For a long time, I never realized just how important Thankfulness (is that a word?) and Gratefulness (that has got to be a word) is to Happiness (definitely a word).
For a long time, my default was to be in a bad mood, and then wait until things cheered me up. If I knew I had to get a blood test in the afternoon, I would waste an entire morning feeling sorry for myself in preparation for the afternoon.
I would head to the doctor too early, then waste too much time sitting around for no reason. Afterward, feeling sore and sorry for myself I would grumble all the way home, poor me… blah blah blah – my life sucks, needles are painful and intrusive and make me sad. Having ITP is shit… Blah blah blah…
There was no gain from being like this. I didn’t gain anything positive from acting like this. My blood count never changed on account of how much I worried about it, or grumbled about the doctor, or felt sad and sorry for myself. The tests never came less frequently the more I complained to my friends about how I was forced to waste my days off at the doctors.
It was so destructive to my happiness, worrying about the results and feeling anxious all morning. I was frustrated that I had to go to the doctor (again) and felt like I was wasting my life.
I was the one that was suffering, feeling flat and sad. And it was my own fault. I was doing nothing to help myself feel better. I was focusing on all the crap stuff.
Taking the time, every day to be grateful and thankful for the good things in your life instantly changes your mood. It makes you smile, it makes you think and it helps to put things into perspective. Just try and think of ten things right now that you can be thankful for today.
Here is my list.
- I am so grateful that Kate came to visit with cheese.
- I’m thankful for the cheap tray of mangos I bought a few days ago.
- I am thankful the weather is hot and nice.
- I am so luck to have a mothers group full of amazing, normal, positive and hilarious ladies…
- That the coffee shop at the end of my street is now open late.
- I am grateful that the dress I am wearing to a friend’s wedding will hide the bruises on the top of my knee.
- I’m so happy that my friend Susie has a beautiful new healthy baby boy!
- I’m grateful that my body responds to Prednisone.
- I feel so happy to have a doctor that cares about my health and is honest and kind with her advice.
- I am grateful to live in Australia and have access to a variety of treatment options.
- I am grateful that the bruise on my arm has only come up half the size I expected.
Ok, so that was 11! See how easy it is once you get on a roll…
This is nothing groundbreaking. Gratitude has been always been seen as a way to get your mood back on track. This article is simply a reminder. And I think we all need reminding every now and again.
It is easy to get carried away with the negative aspects of a Chronic illness.
This week, try and fight it – with a bit of love and thanks.